Fat positivity and fashion
I’ve been following a bunch of fat fashion blogs in the handful of months I’ve been on Tumblr and they’ve made a significant difference in how I see beauty, and how I relate to my own body.
I’ve always been (varying degrees of) fat. As an adult woman I’ve ranged from size 12-16 US (5’8”). Even as a size 12, able to comfortably shop in ‘normal’ stores, I felt like some ungainly giant of a woman. That’s not to say that I couldn’t relate to my sexuality, or see myself as sexy—but more that no matter how banging I felt in a perfectly cut wrap dress and high heeled booties, my hair and makeup perfect, hips cocked just so… later that night I’d undress and be so disappointed in—disgusted with—my own body. I’d have frantic moments where I couldn’t find anything to wear, couldn’t find anything that would cover up my ugliness.
I am by no means defined by self-hate, but we all have those moments, yes? And while it sounds too easy—and of course it isn’t that easy—just seeing pictures of women who are beautiful, confident, fat and fashionable, makes me feel a bit more beautiful, confident and able to be fashionable. And while in the scheme of things, fashion is a pretty frivolous thing, it’s also one of our primary modes of adult play and self expression. Fashion and fashionable (fashionability?) should be for everyone.